Value before Valuable

January 18th, 2012

by: Kelly Barnes

People want to be appreciated not impressed” ~ Sydney J. Harris

If we are to be seen as valuable to others we must first value them. Finding value in others is a win-win, not only does it give them more belief in their abilities causing them to work harder and demand more of themselves (teammates, employees, co-workers…) but it also helps them realize how valuable you are. Here are a few ways to “appreciate” or add value to others today:

1) Listen to their story. Nothing in this world is more valuable to someone than your time. Ask questions and listen. Everyone has a unique and amazing story to tell if we will just take them time to listen. You will be amazed at what you can learn about and from someone by listening to their story.

2) Take the proud parent approach. As a child, and still today, I get a little embarrassed when my dad brags about me in public. Still, there is a part of me that loves it. If you want others to know you value them find ways to brag on them in front of others. It doesn’t have to be a big accomplishment, it only has to be honest and heart felt. If a team member has never missed a meeting, met their deadlines consistently or increased sales; make that known publicly while they are around.

3) Find a way to do something for them that they can not do for themselves. A couple of years ago I was at a benefit dinner for St. Jude Research and there was a silent auction item that I knew I had to buy. It was an autographed guitar by a popular country band. The guitar was not something I wanted, I did not even like the band that much to begin with but they are my brothers all time favorite band. It ended up costing a little more than I wanted to spend but when I gave my brother something he couldn’t get on his own it made the experience invaluable. He still has it today and it is still one of his most cherished possessions.

If you can find a way to do these things as often as possible you will find a way to add value to the lives of others and to your own life as well.